Manic Monday #115

 

 

Today is another bank holiday; lucky me!

Ben and I have had a relaxed day enjoying one anothers company, we have an empty house at the moment so am thoroughly enjoying the solitude at the moment.

I so appreciate my parents having us to stay prior to our move, but coming from a pretty big house with loads of room to living once again in one room can be quite stifiling sometimes.

We finally have a move in date, exactly 3 months tomorrow! 

We have hit a little road block in our mortgage shenanigans, we need to get a tree surgeon to check a tree in our back garden to ensure that it hasn't caused any damage the property or poses any potential threat to cause damage in future.

It is an expense that we have to cover, but if we were to proceed without it, we would unlikely be covered by our buildings insurance if something were to arise from it.

I'd much rather be safe than sorry in this instance!

I have been mulling over the idea of producing some sort of 'user-friendly' guide to housing buying. I'm not going to lie, it's bloody complicated and I'm not great with financial jargen but was thinking it may be a handy life-lesson to be able to access?!

It's not something that's readily available, the people we have worked along side have all been fantastic and really supportive, it may help a tonne that Ben works in the financial industry so I thought why not help if I'm able to?

It's one of the biggest and most daunting decisions to make in your life, a little guidence could most deifinitely put you at ease.

What are your thoughts? Have you gone through the purchasing process? How was your experience?

Toodles.

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Manic Monday #114

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Evening, lovely people!

You'll be pleased to know that my bad case of the grumps was left in Sunday and I feel a huge amount happier today.

Today I wanted to talk about "power", or at least, the idea of power in the social heirarchy. 

I work somewhere that deals with an unsual type or "power", I'm putting that specific power in to quotations as I'm unsure how much power these people actually have and if they do have much to change things dramatically. 

From what I can see they don't have an inordinate amount of power, they may have some more levels of influence, much more so than I do, but power...I'm not too sure.

However, the sheer arrogance and rudeness of some of these people absolutely astounds me.

Today one of these people very rudely interrupted two people in a meeting, a booked meeting no less. It was interrupted because they felt that they have this "power" which entitles them to plonk themself between two people in a meeting, ask to interrupt but then proceed to interrupt anyway, this person felt that what they have to say, on a dropped-in visit of their own convenience is far superior and outweighs the meeting of the other two people who had arranged a time between the two of them.

This person then proceeded to berate a colleague of mine, demanding to know why she thought it was OK to so this, that and the other, of which she has no power in decision making. 

No matter my position, whether an intern or director of a business I would never deem the above an appropriate way to handle something. It's downright rude and I'm sure if this person were on the receiving end of such behaviour they wouldn't hesitate to complain or tell the other person they were being rude for interrupting.

Why do people think they have this right and power that far outweighs everyone else in the world?

I'm definitely not lumping them all in to the same group, as some of them that I have worked with have been nothing more than plesant, but there are a few exceptions to the rule who have this outrageous, exaggerated sense of importance which has deluded them so far in to believing they are better than others. 

Some people need a bit of a reality check.

Being kind and patient will get you much further along in life than blustering around thinking you're all and a cup of tea when you're really not.

What are your thoughts? Are you good at dealing with difficult situations and/or difficult people?

 Toodles.

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A Bad Case of the Grumps

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The hormones are here.

 I am definitely having a grumpy, hormonal day today and it drives me up the wall. The smallest thing can irritate me, frustrate me or bring me to tears. Those things are then blown massively out of proportion and effect how I'm feeling about my day. 

I know some people will scoff at the idea that hormones can effect your day quite that much, but they are just people who haven't had the joy of feeling like an emotional, angry, frustrated, moody, intolerable mess for a day or two. 

I understand that I am posting a very 'first world problem' type of a post, but you know what they say;  
misery loves company.

So rejoce and wallow in your hormones.

You don't have to put on that smiley face if you don't want to and you also don't have to put up with people telling you that hormones aren't really a 'thing' if you just aren't feeling it.
Come up with your best waspish remark, swish your hair in their face and slink away, swinging those hips. 

Toodles.
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Perseverence

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Perseverence is something that I lack in my interests and hobbies.

I do tend to flake out on things over time and if I suddenly hit a wall with what I'm doing I may stop doing that particular thing or give it less of my attention.

I was watching some travel vlogs of a few people travelling in Peru with Contiki and Alli inspired me to pick up with Spanish again. 

I hadn't done it for some time and struggled on the first lesson, I'll admit that halfway through the lesson I closed the session after getting around five answers wrong.

I stopped myself when I navigated my way back to YouTube and internally told myself off.

'So you're just going to give up as soon as it gets hard? How will you ever learn a language that way? Learning something new will always be difficult, try again and take your time.'

Learning a language isn't easy, I'll be the first person to admit it. The reason that I first wanted to learn Spanish is because a young girl in Costa Rica flawed me with her near-perfect translation from Spanish to English in around 5 seconds when asking me a question and she realised I was English. 

The fire in my belly hasn't gone out but my perseverence has waned slightly. 

427 million people speak Spanish all over the world and I would love to be able to one day communicate with a Spanish speaker in Spanish.

Just because I'm getting some of the questions wrong doesn't mean to say I'm failing. 

If I keep pushing and one day it'll sink in. 

Toodles.

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Manic Monday #114 - There's this guy...

Today is mine and Ben's 9 year anniversary.

I'm not one for being really personal on this blog, but I've been thinking over our relationship quite a lot today and wanted to dedicate this post fully to my other half. 

He is like the calm to my storm.

It take a lot to ruffle Ben's feathers, where I'm quite quick to 'twirl' Ben will always there to bring me back to normality.

He's incredibly generous.

Ben is always there if anyone needs a helping hand, whether monetary or otherwise. He'll definitely be the first person to put his hand up and offer to help out. 

He's so very likeable.

Everyone seems to have a soft spot for him. He seems to have an easy approach to social situations and meeting new people. There's a warmth somewhere that draws people in and make them feel comfortable around him.

He's a hard worker.

It's something I've always admired about him, he takes his work very seriously, working hard to prove his worth in the work place and always trying his hardest to do the best he possibly can. 

He's rather thrifty.

He is definitely the main reason we are in the position to be able to purchase our first house, he's not a spender; yet another thing I am in awe of...

I just can't help myself!

He's always there, if it's just to relay a funny story to or to cry about a difficult day. He'll always (mostly) listen and give me a hug.

Our relationship has been easy and I have gained a best friend that I'll treasure throughout my life. 

I'm proud to call him my other half.

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Nooooooo, only on Wednesday did I realise that this hadn't posted!!!!!!

Manic Monday #113

Hello!

Ben and I spent a lovely weekend in Bournemouth, visiting his mum and partner. I love being by the sea, it seems to breath some life in to me and makes me feel amazing.

I find watching the sea hypnotic and could sit, watching waves for hours on end. 

We both need to make more time to go and visit his mum, it's always such a great time and I never want to come home at the end of the weekend.

It's amazing how sometimes a short period of time can make you feel like you're well and truly out of the loop. 

I had four days out of my usual 'routine', we shall say, I feel very discombobulated and felt that I had fallen out of touch with everything around me.

I had a few moments of self doubt today, which I don't like to feel as I don't like to feel like I'm 'twirling'. 

I haven't felt like that in my job for some time and felt like I was trooping along with the requirements, but I made a couple of errors today and felt like the biggest failure in the world.

I know that I'm not and know that making a mistake doesn't mean I've failed. I'm way too hard on myself in some situations, especially within work as I like to prove myself, work  hard to pick up the essentials and learn as I go along.

Mistakes are part of life and learning from a mistake generally ensures you won't do it again. If everyone gave up at the first sign of a hurdle, no one would come close to achieving anything in life. 

Give yourself a break sometimes.

Toodles.

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Create

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Sometimes an idea is like a dream, that in as soon as you wake, it filters through your memory like sand and slowly disappears until you are left with nothing, desperately trying to remember your thought process.

The feeling, sound or numerous other things that can re-trigger that memory are sometimes bizarre and appear to have no relevance to where you thought process was going, but you're back to where you started.

A thought that has a direction lights a fire within you, a way to get to where you want to go. Something to feed your creativity and excites you enough to just get things started.

Does popular opinion matter when you have something tangible in your mind? 

When pen goes to paper and some people sneer at what you're creating, will they really get in the way?

Being a creative person causes you to already have road blocks of creativity, the lingering creative blocks that can last for a day, week, month or years, the dull noise in the back of your mind telling you it's never good enough, the people in life who don't want to understand or believe in you enough to let you being that creator you dream of being. 

You have to create regardless of the blocks to be that person you want to be. 

Let your creativity shine.

Even if it's just you enjoying your art, at least someone is enjoying it.

 

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Thoughts of You

Today, I am thinking of you and all of the times we shared together through our childhood and teenage years creating memories to last a lifetime.

Though I hadn't seen you for some time, I thought about you often and missed the sound of your laugh, the silly things we used to do, causing trouble at your Mum's house and missed spending time with you.

It seems so cruel that you only got to live 27 years of life and I still sometimes forget you are no longer here with us, when I do the feeling hits like a freight train.

I hope you are resting well.
I will be looking at the stars tonight and will be searching for the brightest one.

Love, always.

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Making Time

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I feel like I'm morphing in to some sort of wanna be life guru with the posts that I've written so fart this week, but honestly I just wanted to clarify that with my 'life' posts that it is just how I personally feel about the world and how I handle or wish I would handle my every day life.

I'm not trying to preach.

Promise.

I was watching a Ben Brown vlog the other day and he mentioned about getting outside after working for the majority of the day and that he makes time to get out and about as he feels it adds well being in to his life. 

I can honestly say that I feel the same about getting outside during the day, rarely does a day go passed where I don't actually leave the house. 

I get cabin fever very easily. 

I've never been one to be in the house all day doing bits and bobs and I'm definitely not a 'home bird'. 

I like to explore, I like to breathe fresh air and I like to experience different things while I'm doing those things.

I work, primarily, in an office so I do make the effort to get outside on my lunch by either going for a walk, going in to town to do some window shopping or even just to sit on a bench outside for a bit to get away from the fluorescent lighting and glare of my screen. 

My primary point is that even though life is busy and you can just let time slip by with doing one thing and another, I think it is important to take some time for yourself to soak up the outdoors. 

It's like soul food, for me at least. 

I despise being ill, especially bed-bound, I find it so frustrating to not be able to make that time to go somewhere or do something with my time. 

Be kind to yourself, let yourself have that five minutes to breath and enjoy doing something for you.

Are you a home bird? Or do you prefer exploring?

Toodles.

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Mind Over Matter

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You can read as many motivating posts that can fill the Bible, be inspired by the people around you or be fueled on by someone elses personal journey.

But all that stands between you and the thing you want to accomplish is your mind. 

The mind is the most powerful tool to us and yet it is also that pesky little thing that might get in the way of us accomplishing our goal.

It won't matter if you stop and walk for a minute...ohh, no, one more slice of cake won't hurt...I'm feeling tired now, we should probably just stop and take a breather.

I suffer with the classic case of letting my mind tell me when I've gone too far at the gym or that I couldn't possibly run another step and I just give up.

 I'm relating this to exercise and well being in this post because this is generally where I let my mind get the better of me, but it can, of course, apply in any part of your life.

Sometimes I think your mind needs to be given the V's or a big f' you, because you and your body can do it. It might take time to build up to your goal and that's perfectly OK, but don't let that small voice in the back of your mind tell you that you can't go any further, because you know what?

You can and will.

Toodles.

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Manic Monday #112

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It's just another Manic Monday, I wish it were Sunday...

But it is a bank holiday, so that's equally as good, right?

I have a bit of a mad week this week, so apart from my run this morning and tomorrow evening, I think it's safe to say I'll probably just be taking it easy. 

On Thursday I have the mother of all working days and am working 6am - 10pm.

Then back in at work for 9 on Friday. I don't feel too bad about it, I just worry about the food situation. How do you prepare for working a 16 hour day?

I'm really enjoying running this time around, I've actually joined a women's running group. I'm definitely not the competitive type, but I am more competitive with myself when I'm working out with a group of people.

Around 150+ plus women are turning up each week which is a great motivator, everyone is a different shape, size, weight and fitness level. 

There is no judgement from others or from the instructors and you are left to your own devices to run at a pace you feel most comfortable with. 

It works from the couch to 5k program, which focuses more in interval training than flat out running. I find running full pelt difficult and I think that is what has previously dissuaded me from continuing with it before.

Gym gear is now everywhere, H&M, New Look, MissGuided all do some great work out gear now, I am fully invested in perusing their selections on a regular basis. Dreamy work out gear spurs me on to actually work out and put it to good use!

Are you part of any exercise groups? Do you find it helps you work out more?

Toodles.

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May 1st

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I think it was around March 28th that I had a creative boost moment, I'll do a blogging month, I say with full intention of pre-planning like a good, studious and organised blogger. 

Ha.

The planning didn't happen, not one whiff of a note being written, no hint of a picture being taken, no research undertaken and not one new, never used before product purchased.

How prepared I am for this month. 

In all honestly, I fully poured all of my creativity in to my book and have been enjoying writing it up so much. I've enjoyed it so much that losing 14,500 or so words didn't put me off and I'm now half way through already typing those lost words back up. 

We'll see how this month goes, I would like to work a few more posts in alongside my writing. I will try for some daily doses, even if its something particularly obscure that crossed my thoughts from that day. 

Happy May everyone.

This year is going alarmingly fast.

Toodles.

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